Tuesday 15 January 2013

Proses Perceraian - The Conclusion

Assalamualaikum,

So sorry for not putting a proper conclusion to my story. Here it is.

Going back to last February 2012, if you follow my case, after the discussion with Jawatankuasa Pendamai failed, I was supposed to go through Majlis Hakam.  As I understand it, Majlis Hakam will take the power of jatuhkan talaq from pihak suami.  Hakam can be the one yang jatuh kan talaq.  My lawyer has actually asked me to appoint an uncle from my family's side to represent me even.  But this never materialised.

At this time, my ex-husband also has a lawyer.  My lawyer and his lawyer negotiated with my ex-husband and me.  I was asked if I am willing to let go of my rights of harta sepencarian, nafkah eddah dan all rights to nafkah yang telah tertangguh during the marriage of 15 years, if he give me the divorce that I wanted.  I immediately agreed.  My greedy ex-husband find that that is an extremely good offer seems to like the idea that he doesn't have to give me a single cent and eventually agreed to jatuhkan talaq.  My friends said I was really stupid for letting go of my rights because they said I would have obtained a good sum.  To me, he is a nuisance and has made my life miserable for way too long and I couldn't wait to get rid of him from my life so didn't think too much of the opportunity lost there.

I am formally a free woman on 16 May 2012. Alhamdulillah... I can now lead a normal life without kongkongan.  I am a Muslim woman and I want to die a Muslim and jannah is my objective.  May Allah continues to support and give me His Protection through this life.  I love you Allah.  Thank you for this gift.