Monday 1 July 2013

Single is Fun

Assalamualaikum,

I am now single.  I didn't know being single is so much fun.  I totally have no complaints what so ever.

Both my divorce case and my hadhanah case have been concluded.  I can now start my life fresh.  I now have more time to think of myself. 

Things I have never got to do for myself and now I do:
  1. Cut my hair really short - like a boy cut.  It is freedom by itself.  Your head feel so light.
  2. Get my hair colored light brown. Wonderful feeling to see me in different light (different hair color maaaa)
  3. Learn to recite Al-Quran.  My tajweed is much better now.  I will recite at least one long surah at least once a week.  The peacefulness you get to reading your creator's words are extremely reassuring.
  4. Able to go out with my girlfriends.  Previously once a year pun payah.  Always having to ask for permission.  Asking doesn't mean you will be allowed to go out.
  5. I don't have to cook everyday anymore.  I used to think my life is only limited to the kitchen. Yeee Haaa... Now I do cook, but only if I feel like doing so.  If me alone, I can survive by just eating crackers... hihihi.. i tell you this is freedom. When my children come during the weekend, i just eat out if I don't want to cook.  I am totally almost stress free now.
  6. I am an extreme romance addicts.  I used to read a lot of English romance novel in school.  Now I am a confirmed K-Drama addict.  It makes me laugh and it makes me cry.  One of my niece is also a big everything Korean fan.  My daughter also follows Korean drama that I watch too.... K-Drama gives me the romance elements in my life.  I love to share Korean stuff with my daughter and my niece whenever we get together.
  7. I have more time spent with my siblings.  Before this, it is such a rare occasion that I can visit my siblings or even my mother.  Now I can do it whenever I like. Not that I do it all that much because I just realised that single persons are busy people too.

Oh I do feel lonely sometimes, but that is like 10-20 mins in a week before I got swept away with my busy schedule again.

I wonder why does husband not allowing their wife to do what she likes.  I love doing what I am doing now and none of it is against the teachings of Islam, at least that's what I think. Doesn't a wife's happiness contribute to a husband's and the family's happiness? 

Since I am so happy now, should I even bother to get married again?  I think I should have fun for another 2 - 5 years then perhaps I can think of getting married again.  But then again should I even bother to get married again if that husband in the future is going to make my life miserable again.  I think not!!! My K-Drama is calling...

Till next time.... Lotsa Luv... have a good evening... sleep tight. Jangan lupa baca doa tidur, Al-fatihah and Ayat Kursi.  Semoga Allah melindungi kita selalu daripada apa yang tidak kita ketahui dan apa yang kita ketahui yang boleh memudharatkan kita dan anak-anak kita... I love you, Allah. I love you, Rasulullah.